Be Better: Clean up your life to become a better man

To become a man of authenticity, be his true self and prosper in life – he needs to remove the ill and negativity, in and around him.

Amazing gardens do not blossom and flourish with the presence of weeds. No matter what type of seeds you plant, the weeds will inevitably destroy the plant or prevent it from growing.

Men you are here because you are not happy with your life just now, there is no satisfaction and you are not even close to the man you used to be - worse than this would be that you never were that man. Life has thrown everything at you from all angles and you have become a mere vessel that does what he is told, never listened to or respected, in a sexless marriage, the man you find in a corner trying not to be noticed in public gatherings.

This is all going to change, no matter who you are, you have something to offer the world in one way or another.

How do you get there

We all have a vision of who we would want to be, how our life should look like and the feelings we should have. I do not want you to compare yourself to anyone but yourself; your life is unique, your environment is not the same as others. It's you now versus the you, you want to be. Our lives are mediocre because we have let it become that way, accepted societal norms, neglected our own desires and well, pretty much given up. STOP. Men, time to clean up our acts and get our lives back in order.

#1: Why Is Cleaning Our Act So Important?

#2: What Should We Clean Up?

#3: Are You Ready To Begin Your Journey?

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#1: Why Is Cleaning Our Act So Important?

Life has turned you into an Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) with no desire for life. You go through life without thinking, feeling or any care for what you do. That dream or vision you had prior to marriage or LTR is so far from reality. You have developed so many bad and negative habits that just keep destroying your further and further; and one day this will end when you are in the grave or retire lonely like a grumpy old man who no one wants to be around. You need to stop all this bullshit and weak thinking - time to remove all that is not benefitting you.

For you to become a better man, see improvement and fulfil the vision you once had, you need to remove all the negative and bad traits that have developed in you with time.

You need to take accountability and acknowledge what these traits are and how they make you feel. Make a decision to change/remove these today - you will no longer accept anything that does not benefit you or make you miserable.

#2: What Should We Clean Up?

This is an exhaustive list but not a complete list by far as some options can be specific to a person which cannot be addressed here based on our own situations. If we do not remove all the bad/negative, eventually it will cause decay on the inside and come to the surface destroying all the good we have established. The following list is in no particular order - which of these are a sore point for you:

• Having bad frame - worrying about others opinions and comments, reacting to anything someone says; do not give a f*ck. Ignore these and avoid situations where this may happen

• Being negative - complaining and being pessimistic about everything, having nothing positive to say or even being optimistic. Life has done you wrong and you are just not getting a break in life. No one owes you anything, go get it yourself.

• Poor habits - poor habits lead to failures in life, low self esteem and depression. Having poor habits can make success difficult, lack self-respect which in turn, others will disrespect you. Habits can be related to all areas in your life: eating badly, sedentary lifestyle, lack of exercise and so on. Make a decision to replace the bad with good.

• Bad diet - eating processed foods, fast foods, sugary products, alcohol and eating late at night will be detrimental to your health, providing minimal to zero benefit, causing damage to organs, weight gain, and respiratory issues. Cut it all out, stick to natural foods and cook at home.

• Unsupportive people - keeping the wrong people in your circle can drain you, demotivate you and set you back. Energy vampires can hold you back and reverse your progress. Remove people from your life that add no benefit, family, friends and partners. They say that you turn out like the 5 people you associate most with - have a good network of people around you and as ambitious.

• Energy drainers - also known as energy vampire, suck all the energy out of you by complaining to you and gossiping. they can depress with their misery but your fault is that you continue to engage with these people and waste your time listens to their bullshit. You don't cut them out of your life, you not only waste time with them but are left feeling miserable for some time after.

• Bad wardrobe - ill-fitting clothes, lack of style and worn or shabby clothes can reflect badly on you; lower your status value and importantly, make women reject you before you have even opened your mouth. Clothes make the man presentable, honourable and higher status. Check your wardrobe and make the change asap.

• Excessive wasting/hoarding - holding on to items you don't use, buying things that you don't really need hold you down and create an attachment to unnecessary items. this is a waste of money and space plus an added headache to maintain. Minimise your environment and cut back on the need for useless items.

• Procrastination - the root cause of procrastination is due to the work or task needing to be done does not excite you, make you feel alive or stimulate any pleasurable feelings. Procrastination is also allowing your mind to divert when you should be focused on completing the task at hand. So when something needs to be done, just do it, don't think about it.

• Inner Peace destroyers - associating yourself with people that constantly complain and moan. Do not take action to improve their situations. Bring amongst these people wastes time and can drain your energy levels. This includes family and friends. You want people with the same energy level as you or those that boost your levels. Do not become an energy drainer yourself. Be the peace, be in peace!

• Interfering - you are too busy to involve yourself in other people's matters, by getting involved you take on partial burden of the problem, elevate stress and waste time and resources. Let people be, you just do you.

• Gossiping/back biting - do not waste your time talking about other people, especially when you don't have all the evidence. Gossiping is not a manly thing to do, you waste your time in idle useless talk when that time can be spent improving yourself, becoming the person that no one will gossip about. Gossip usually stems from jealousy or a lack of fulfilment in your own life. Create a good life and you won't have time for bullshit talk.

• Sedentary lifestyle - this destroyer is becoming all too common especially with the working from home situation that is present today. We still for 8-9 hours in front of our computers, then more hours in front of the TV. Our bodies are not moving as much as they should be. Take multiple exercise breaks, even 5 minute rounds every half hour. During meetings that do not require face time, do seat exercises, lift dumb bells, anything to keep your body moving. MOVE. MOVE. MOVE.

• Games & entertainment - you spend hours playing video games or watching marathon TV wasting time on pointless bullsh*t whereas that time could be spent learning new skills

• Poor hygiene - you have bad breath, sweaty armpits and/or rough skin. Hair is a mess and cluttered. You have no cleansing routine and don't shower regularly. People do not associate or maintain relations with persons that have bad hygiene. Would you like to be in the presence of a person that had bad odour.

• Porn/masturbation - this is a soul destroying pair of activities. Time consuming and majority of the time you will just end up feeling shit afterwards. Learn some self-control otherwise you will be controlled by those desires. This leads to low self-esteem, drains your energy, lowers testosterone and can ruin relationships and interactions with women.

• Beta actions / 'simping' - prioritising your woman's requests and changing your plans to suit hers. Actions that do not benefit you or actions taken to create desire that you would not normally do. Do not mistake these for your responsibilities as a husband or father.

• Being a nice guy - the nice guy gets a bad rep due to the kindness and niceness he shows in return for something. There is always an expectation. Genuine, authentic people show kindness without expecting anything in return. The nice guy is needy, clingy and temperamental in his behaviour. Quit that shit. Only be kind if you really want to help.

• Accepting disrespect - never accept disrespect from anyone. This lowers your value and status. Have standards and stand up for yourself by addressing this straight away so the disrespect is not repeated.

• No ambitions or passions - not gaining knowledge to improve your career prospects is not the status of a man. We must be striving to become better, learn to improve and gain promotion or increase your business. You must be looking at better opportunities. Do something that has meaning and are passionate about that brings the income you need and makes you willing to implement the discipline needed to see it through.

• Lack of skills/hobbies/interests - having no extra-curricular activities, not partaking in any sports or hobbies and just TV/social media binging or wasting time on useless activities that bring no benefit to you mentally, physically and emotionally. Quick dopamine rush activities do not count towards emotional satisfaction.

• Acceptance of current life - accepting the lifestyle you have which is not what you want and blaming it others or "what life has thrown at you". If you want better, go fucking after it. Living in the comfort zone, and accepting your situation is for the weak. Men must create their life, and create the life you want. The more you desire it, the more you will chase it and make things happen.

• Avoiding responsibilities - not paying bills on time, not finishing the work that needs to be done and not being the supportive partner/father needed for your family. This could be a habit developed over time or a response to painful event, betrayal or trauma. If it is anything other than you being a lazy ass, seek help, talk to friends - resolve the issue causing you to avoid responsibilities.

• Bad financial planning - spending money you don't have on things you don't need to impress people you don't know. Racking up credit cards. Not saving money for a rainy day or emergencies - do you even have a couple of thousand, just in case. Are you paying for services that you don't even use. Cut back on shit that is not important or useful, save that money or invest it. Appreciate the money you earn.

• Bad with women/sex - you don't know how to talk to women, you say the wrong things and behave inappropriately with them. You are sexually not very good, do not last long, are not adventurous in the bedroom, your hasn't had an orgasm in a long time from you. Your body shape, and/or smell is not pleasing to women during sex.

• Not articulate/well-spoken - are you a bumbling idiot, do you have to talk so much in order to make your point. Do you come across needy, submissive or pedestalise the person you are talking to. You need to learn to speak clearly and slowly, use good language and proper tonality based on the situation.

• Poor body language - poor body language can make you look and feel less than you are. Do you slouch, tighten up your body to take less space, lack of eye contact with the person you are talking with, fidgety - stop all these weak actions. Learn to respect yourself, you are human like the person in front of you and unless there is a gun pointing at you, chest out soldier!

You must acknowledge the areas in your life where you have weaknesses and take accountability in remediating these. Be truthful and honest with yourself to get the best results. The journey to self-improvement starts with decluttering the mess and replacing, like for like with greatness.

#3: Are You Ready To Begin Your Journey

By default, you will already be on the road to improvement by removing all the negativity and bad habits in your life. Good actions will improve you further, removing the bad actions will reverse all the crap you have been going through and start to make you feel and look better.

You can click on the links to get further information on how to remove these habits and make better decisions. Make a promise to yourself that you will become better and never fall back into the old habits. We get one life gentlemen, let's make it the best we can.

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